It's okay to not be okay




We all have days where we do not feel okay. We sometimes feel sad , hurt , angry or just unhappy.

If you feel like this , there is nothing wrong with you. You are not weak. You are human!

These feelings are almost always triggered by something. It could be as trivial as a song that triggers some kind of memory. It could be something someone says or does. For everyone this will be different. The one thing we all have in common though is the presence of normal human emotions.

Some of us will try and suppress these feelings. We do this because of mistaken beliefs. These include that showing emotion is a sign of weakness. Another is that you always have to be strong for those around you. How many times do we tell ourselves that it's not that bad and that others have it worse? 

This last statement might be true but even sadness , disappointment , hurt and anger are important feelings. Suppressing these feelings not only invalidates your emotions , it also harms your self - esteem and could even in its extreme form shorten your life. 

Suppressed emotions could have devistating results in our lives. Extensive research done found that the consequences of bottling up emotions are far more serious than originally thought. Risk of diseases like heart disease and cancer were found to have increased quite considerably in those suppressing their emotions.  In very serious cases it has also lead to self hurt and suicide. 

Instead of pushing your emotions aside recognise that your feelings are a normal part of who you are. Take time to work through your emotions. If you need to cry then do that. If you need to write down what you feel then that is what you must do. Maybe you need to talk to someone to make sense of your emotions. This will all serve to acknowledge and validate your emotions and in the process you will start feeling better and happier. If you don't take the time to work through your emotions they will start controlling you rather than you controlling your emotions. 

Lastly remember that we are God's creations. He knows our deepest desires and emotions. He will always be willing to listen. Who better to talk to about your emotions than the One that created you.

Blessing and stay safe 

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